How a fly can teach you how to study?

Many flies die below the window of the house because they keep slamming their heads on the window to try to fly out. But the next window or door is open.

Do they not know how to fly out via the opening?


Because there is no other fly there to teach them that there is a system to fly out! The system is that when it sees a window, it must look for an opening to fly out and not by hitting the window continuously.

The moral of this story is that besides having ability and talent, one must also find a system to apply them constructively to overcome problems.


You need a SYSTEM to study!

“For a FAIR selection, everybody has to take the SAME exam:
please climb the tree.”

The education system is too fair!

Every student needs to take the same exam.

We are all born with different levels of talent and potential. We are all unique.
If you are like that fish, how can you climb a tree like a monkey?

You are not stupid. You do not have the SYSTEM to study. I hope someone told me this when I was your age.

In elementary school, I was like a fish. I was champion in getting a grade “X,” which was/is worse than an “F”, so I was a BAD failure. It was horrible! Many classmates dared not be friends with me, and their parents also did not allow their children to play with me for fear of my “stupidity” in contemplating their children. When I was 7 years old, I was already facing rejection and discrimination. The poor grades were so uncomfortable. Thinking of it now can still bring tears to my eyes.

But I don’t even think it’s stupid as I REFUSED to think I was stupid!
I learned a long time ago: “Don’t let the actions of others destroy your inner peace.”

Let’s use this story as an illustration and look at it from another angle.

Teacher: “Peter, if there are five birds on the fence and you shoot one, how many birds are left?”

Peter: “None; others will fly away.”

Teacher: “The answer is 4, but I like your way of thinking.”

Use your brain!

Peter’s answer is beyond the confining of school mathematics. He considered the impact of his actions and the reactions of other birds. He was judged wrong by the school examination system, but he was right according to the logic of consequences in real life.

When I was a child, I remember my mother always praised me for having many ideas. For example, I know how to train our pet dog to urinate and defecate at the same place every time. At the age of 3, I have a safe way to buy coffee from a coffee shop, etc. Now I use flies and this cartoon and get letters from the Premier and the Minister of Advanced Education.

You also have your own ideas, so feel free to use them.

So when I failed elementary school, I kept telling myself it was okay. I had a lot of ideas, but the only thing that the teachers did not know.

When I was studying in university, I used my ideas to develop a system to study.

If you look at many successful inventors and businessmen, you will find that their ideas are completely different. If human beings do not accept new thinking, electricity, digital computers, quantum computers, etc. will not be invented.

I always tell people that it is best to have the qualifications and talents for new ideas.

Whether you are a student or a part-time student, or a parent, there are problems with studying. From my past painful experience, I understand your difficulties.

Let’s use this system together!

My professor of systems engineering taught me that there is a system for everything in the world. Ecosystem, transportation system, economic system, and so on. So it dawned on me that I could use my innate ability to develop a Study Skills SYSTEM.

Teachers taught us WHAT to study. . . mathematics, science, language. . . but there never taught me HOW to study.

What is then a Study Skills SYSTEM?

First of all, I must say that is no system that is complete, and no one should claim to be better than the other. We only complement each other to help you.

In simple terms, a Study Skills SYSTEM should include the following important points (but not limited to):

  • How to overcome feelings of reading within 5 minutes each time.
  • Easy and fun to implement memory techniques/
  • Time-saving methods to stay healthy.
  • Communication with parents.
  • University project and essay writing.
  • Relaxation techniques. If you are nervous, it is difficult to be creative.
  • How to praise yourself when alone? It is important because many people condemn or curse themselves and become very negative.
  • How to ask? The best way to learn is not just by answering questions but how to ask questions by restructuring them in different ways.
  • Look at your lessons with curiosity. Curiosity is the key to learning.
  • How to connect with your topic so you won’t get lost in your studies and use it to find out (spot) exam questions. This technique saved my life. Whenever I remember using it in my university days, I would laugh.
  • How to quickly improve your level of English.
  • Find a good tuition centre.
  • How to use your vacation.
  • Important exam skills.
  • and many more…..

Parents: How can parents help their children study?

My Study Skills SYSTEM is unique but very simple and easy to learn.

It is designed to be flexible. It serves as a springboard to evolve into your own system to meet your needs. This is why it is called “YES in Learning”, (YES: Your Effective System).

It should not replace effort but effectively use your effort to exceed your potential. You don’t need to be like the flies that, without a system, they die hitting against the window instead of finding an opening to fly out.

You, like the fish, must have your own flexible system. The fish cannot compete with the monkey in climbing trees, but by using a SYSTEM, it can compete with the ITSELF to climb the tree to reach its own potential!

As a bonus, in my training, you will realize:
“Your parents may not be perfect, but they are your most precious gift.”

Parents: How can parents help their children’s studies?

Parents need to progress with students. Therefore to complement the Study Skills system is the: “Parents Helping Children to Study.”


Topics include (but are not limited to):

  • How to praise your child as Professor Dweck, a psychologist at Stanford University, warns that if we praise our children wrongly, it can cause them to shy away from being smart!
  • How to help your child find good friends and avoid bad friends?
  • How to guide your child to see the positive side of things?
  • How to communicate with your children and help organize their lives?
  • Understand the difference between Asian and Western education in order to understand the strengths and weaknesses of the system. Many people have immigrated to Western countries because of their children’s education. Is it worth it?
  • and many more!

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